open letter to all women.

Are you fat? Do you want lean, toned arms that dont jiggle? Do you have what some would call 'thunder thighs'? Seriously, take a good long look at yourself in the mirror... you never had that double chin before, and i bet you could hardly get your jeans on this morning.. hell, i bet you could sniff out any twinky within 500 feet. You should be ashamed of yourself. You are ugly. You are.. you're a heifer.. you'll never find a man with that body.

Sound familiar?.. maybe?..

I dont know about anyone else, but that's the message i get when i see weight loss, clothing, diet or even make up ads. That I am ugly, I should get that foundation.. i have so many blemishes.. Jenny Craig? I could lose 55lbs too?

it's sick.. Women are attacked every single day in mainstream media.. yea, i know i know.. what's new right?

But seriously.. I just wanted to send out a message to all the women out there.. You are not ugly.. you dont need that mascara, or to lose 10lbs (well, maybe you do but do it for your health and not for what people call 'beauty' these days)..

We're under so much pressure to be thin, to be pretty, to be sweet, docile women. We need to be hairless in certain places, if that means painful wax or time consuming shaving.. chemical hair removal.. even laser hair removal.. we need to have legs for days and eyelashes to match.. plumper lips, double D's and a plump round bum is what we need.. I mean.. we want to get married right? and to get pregnant (because you dont want to miss your chance to wear Kim Kardashian's maternity line)..

But think about it.. do you need to lose 10 lbs to be sexy or beautiful? or do you need to lose 10lbs to be healthy? or do you need to lose 10lbs at all?!

Lady you are gorgeous. You're tall, you're short.. you're thin or curvy.. A cups or D cups.. baby you've got it!! you are one amazing creature.. look at your body... it's a miracle! you are a cradle of life! I've never had a baby myself, but I have lots of friends who have.. it never ceases to amaze me what a female body can do! Inside your belly (when you are pregnant), you're constructing hair, bones, skin.. a human being. A human being just like you! you have feelings, you have opinions, you matter! and so will that thing that your body is able to create!

You matter too much to be feeling ugly. You deserve to feel confidant and beautiful because you are! in your own, special, unique way sweetheart you're absolutely magnificent. if you've got thin legs and knobby knees, or thunder thighs like me.. you are a gift wrapped in your own skin.. inside, you are a great person. regardless of what has happened to you in the past or what you've done or felt to/about yourself.. you dont deserve to feel shame. inside is a wonderful, beautiful woman just waiting to take on the world!

We need to start worrying about our mothers in abusive relationships, our sisters on the streets, our cousins who cut themselves or abuse themselves because they dont feel worth it. We need to stop worrying about how we'll manage to fit into that bathing suit by summer, or getting those boots that can accommodate our calves.

We need to redefine beauty. Do it for your daughter.